June 21, 2010

Special you...

What is it about us girls that makes us think that our value should be weighed according to the opinion of others? You know what I'm talking about right?
When I was in high school I had a friend who constantly complained that she was ugly. The crazy thing was that she was really quite pretty. OK, so she was no supermodel, but she definitely wasn't ugly! You wanna know why she thought she was ugly, well it was just because the boys never liked her.
Now I know that in high school its natural to weigh your beauty according to how many guys like you, but now that I'm older (and hopefully wiser) I just don't see the sense in it. Let me tell you why:

1. Boys like girls for many different reasons. they're also known to like the ones that are 'easy'. That doesn't make those girls any prettier, does it?
2. Most High school boys couldn't tell a good quality girl from a stinky sock. Lets face it, most of them are really stupid!
3. High school girls are really stupid to assume that just because someone never noticed their beauty, it means that there is no beauty at all. We all have our own unique qualities that make us special and wonderful. How well can the guys really know us after 5 seconds of checking us out???

You see we shouldn't give others the power to influence our perception of ourselves. Ok, so sure sometimes we may need people's criticism to help us become better people. But we cant let peoples opinions of us shape our own opinions of ourselves. If we do then we will so easily be broken when others try to break us. And we will be constantly seeking the approval of others, to make us feel better about ourselves.

I'm writing this because I'm sitting here and thinking about a relative who's having problems with her teenage daughter. As I consider the impact of  a guy on the mind of a young woman, I feel truly sorry for all those young girls who lack self esteem, and who so desperately cling to the attention that they get from a guy- attention that makes them feel so good about themselves. So to all you young girls out there, I beg you to be strong. This attention is an addictive drug. Don't get addicted! Understand well that you have special qualities, and that you don't need anyone to make you realize that!


  1. Asalam Alaykum, ukti I am contacting you as a sister in Islam. I saw your blog and noticed 786 first off. I think its very important to tell people what this 786 myth means as it holds no place in Islam and you obviously think it does.

    Therefore, whosoever uses 786 with the intention to obtain Allah's blessings, is a misguided person and any attempt to justify it, is ignorance. More astonishing is that fact that '786' is an aggregation of the numbers of Hindu 'Lord Hari Krishna'

    Please read this to further your knowledge and inshAllah you can take that off its VERY un-Islamic.


  2. Jazakallah Noor for your comments. I am always eager to listen to the viewpoints of others, in the attempt to increase my knowledge and improve my character. Regarding this issue however, I have consulted with a local sheikh who has assured me that, used in this context (to identify this site as one dealing with 'Muslim issues') the use of it would indeed be permissible.

    The use of 786 may very well be misconstrued to hold a greater benefit but, again, i am assured that the purpose of it here is permissible in Islam.

    Jazakallah again. Please feel free to comment and join in on discussions to share your opinion.
    Your sister in Islam, Khadeeja.


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